"Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and honesty with integrity, they think of you." - H. Jackson Brown Jr.
Leading yourself is vital for success. And it is vital for achieving something worthwhile with your life. People who have learned to lead themselves are called personal leaders. And those personal leaders have adopted certain characteristics that made them stand out. These characteristics are called personal leadership characteristics. One of these is: honesty with integrity.
Honesty with Integrity
The Webster defines honesty as the "quality of being fair and true." While integrity is defined as "the state of being whole." Combining the two definitions, honesty with integrity indicates that your words and actions are congruent with one another. It means that what you say and what you do aligned with each other.
Phony leaders are those whose actions and words mean different things. They talk about service, yet you don't see them serving other people. They are those who speak of honesty, yet bend facts, rules, and information to fit their reality. And they confuse their people. That's because they work without the fifth personal leadership characteristic. Their followers don't know how to act just because they are confused.
But true leaders and true personal leaders have learned to act in truthful ways. You see them do things honestly and with integrity. Their actions square off with their words. They tell you about service and you will see service in them. And you will learn service through them. They are never going to give orders and commands that they themselves will never be willing to follow.
Warren Buffett, the billionaire owner of Berkshire Hathaway once said, "if you will be hiring people, look for integrity, intelligence, and energy. Without the first one, the other two will kill you." Buffett, in his whole career, has shown strong integrity. Not only in business, but also in real life. He once shared that one of his codes whenever he thinks of taking an action is this: never do something that you will be ashamed to see in the front page of the news.
In an article entitled Success will come and go but Integrity is forever, the writer shares the same view. Amy Reese Anderson said that if a person is dishonest, it will eventually catch up to him or her. Now, the consequences of doing things without integrity may not catch up immediately. But surely, it will catch up eventually. There is nothing that we can do about that. All our actions and choices will bring about a consequence. We may have free will about our choices, but not the consequences.
Acting with Honesty and Integrity
Practicing honesty with integrity is difficult. That's why only a few are really able to lead themselves. But although it's hard, it's not impossible. Since honesty with integrity isn't talked about so much in this day and age, it will be challenging to practice. The media has been highlighting people and events who practice being dishonest and doing things without integrity. But personally, I view it as an opportunity to stand out.
When you practice the fifth personal leadership characteristic, you will stand out naturally. People will feel your authenticity. Here's a hack on how you can practice it: find small opportunities to share an honest opinion. But make sure people can see it in you. Make sure that you are doing what you're saying. For example, if you see that a person only sees the negative in any situation, make sure to input something positive. Try to look at it on a different angle. What positive thing can you see in this negative situation?
If a friend is always feeling down and you know how to make yourself feel happy, share your secret. Tell them what you're doing. You'll never know the impact it might do to them. Or give an honest compliment to people. The thing is, find a small thing that you can give an honest and constructive opinion on. But make sure you show it first.
By practicing it on small things, you start to build your honesty and integrity muscles. You are starting to build a positive habit. And in time, you're going to benefit from it. Because honesty with integrity always win.
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Nowadays when competition is high, people are doing just about everything to get what they want. Practicing honesty and putting integrity with it will make you stand out. Not only professionally. But most importantly, you will stand out personally. Who we become is more important than what we will have. Always remember that.
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Live an inspired life,
Jeric C. Timbang
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